Cheers to your fabulous Success!
How can women entrepreneurs release money blocks, develop a premium money mindset and create true wealth and abundance? It has to do with your bed.
Working with my clients and supporting potential clients during consultation calls is about 55 percent of my online coaching business, and it brings me so much joy and fulfilment. Each client comes with her own unique situation and story, and interesting approach to business.
Let’s take Emily for example. Emily wants to build a successful business. She’s a brilliant woman entrepreneur who wants to create the life, relationship and business of her dreams. She loves helping her clients resolve their family and relationship issues. She’s a family law attorney.
Emily knows what to do. She has a very powerful strategic plan. She’s worked with brilliant marketing and sales coaches. She has all the strategies and tools to build a 7 figure online service business, and has consistently followed all the inconsistent advice she’s been given over the last 7 years.
She has a beautiful to-do list covered in post-it notes featuring all the colors of the rainbow, and an electronic planner that will make most women entrepreneurs drool.
She’s consistently checking off her to do list, but nothing is really happening with impact, money, profits, or getting clients. Sales conversations, setting prices and talking about the investment in her services with potential clients make her want to shower.
Emily is on a Money Mindset Breakthrough Consultation Call and is finally starting to see what the issue really is.
“Is that like a new tool or strategy,” she asks?
What Are the Money Blocks and How Are They Showing Up in Your Business?
Let’s start with what’s really hiding under your bed?
Last week was an interesting one for both me and my clients. I noticed a pattern.
I showed up to my coach saying,
“I’m really unmotivated right now. I don’t know where to find the inspiration to finish my Money Mindset Workbook.”
“I’ve been procrastinating on writing blogs and newsletters.”
My clients showed up feeling bored, unmotivated and uninspired with their own goals.
Friends and colleagues sought support around issues like…
“I’m tired. I’m not interested in working.”
“I don’t really think my goals are what I want.”
“I don’t even know what I want to do with business. I’m not enjoying this niche.”
“I haven’t touched any of the action steps for today.”
“I think I’m depressed. I’m procrastinating, and I don’t even want to look at my emails this week.”
“I feel like I can’t do anything right.”
“I don’t have the money to hire a coach right now.”
“I don’t want to deal with my business this week.”
The list goes on and on. And there’s nothing wrong with any of the comments, emotions, feelings or thoughts.
photo credit. Quantum Ai
The Relationship between Limiting Beliefs and Goals
Our words and thoughts shine the light on the power of our subconscious on our ability to move along with our dreams, visions and goals.
On our power to create wealth in our lives, make money in our business and create time freedom to enjoy the people, places and things we love and desire.
Learning all the tools, getting all the strategies, developing that powerful action plan, putting together that gorgeous vision board and saying the most empowering affirmation statements all day WON’T WORK until you learn what is really hiding under your bed.
Me, my colleagues and the women I work with are smart, powerful, educated, beautiful, capable, brilliant and want to create abundance in every area of life, relationships, business, spirituality, health and wellbeing.
More money freedom.
More time freedom.
More impact and service.
More good health.
More work-life balance.
More spiritual awareness.
More wealth in every area of life.
Get tired of our current status quo and dream of something better for our lives, relationships, business and wellbeing.
Hire a coach or mentor.
Create specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely goals.
Devise a strategic action plan considering our skills, resources and environment.
Create tiny bite size action steps that don’t overwhelm or intimidate us.
And then they, STOP.
The Power of Limiting Beliefs to Disrupt Life and Business
Because doubts show up.
Fear creeps in.
Burnout and overwhelm drop by.
Lack and Scarcity take up prime real estate in our minds.
Competing intentions take over.
One part of you wants to move forward with your goals but, your subconscious tries to protect you and WINS with “no, no no….
It never works out for women like you.
You’re not enough.
You’re too fat.
You’re too old.
You’re not ready.
It’s too expensive.
You know you don’t have time for this.
You haven’t even finished the other program you paid for.
You don’t like setting goals.
You love your freedom.
Just wait until X graduates from college first.
Or until you get back from vacation.
Or until you have 6 months expenses saved up.
And voila! You’ve hit the brakes on your life, your relationships and your business and slipped back into that old, familiar comfort zone.
Now you’re here feeling stuck, uninspired and unmotivated to move forward.
What do you do?
How to Shift Money Stories and Limiting Beliefs and Release Your Money Blocks
Look under the bed, not just to sweep and clean, but to take a deep look at those hidden blocks keeping you in a START-STOP pattern.
Shine the torch on the stories. The patterns. The limiting beliefs. The disempowering thoughts. The UGLY FUGLY GREMLINS.
Because if you look closely, you’ll find out they are just a pair of dirty old socks, crumbled up and forgotten.
And yet, those dirty socks have so much power over your ability to create the life and business you desire.
Those gremlins don’t think you can do this.
Not because you’re stupid, lazy or incompetent, but because the stories you’re carrying out in your baggage have created enough evidence for your gremlins to do their job every time you try to make a new move in the direction of your dreams.
They protect you.
They rely on the evidence you created when you were 5. When tommy from the playground pulled your hair and called you ugly and stupid.
They rely on the evidence you created when mommy told you were loud, and that girls you need to be more like Rachel from next door. Why can’t you just be smart, pretty and quiet like her.
They rely on the evidence you created when daddy told you money doesn’t grow on trees, and worked 90 hours a week so that you can have everything you ever wanted even though you never saw him.
They rely on the evidence you created when you heard your parents argue about money and then subsequently divorce and fight over both you and money.
They rely on the evidence you created when your holy roller aunty told you money was the root of all evil and corrupts even the best people, and you should never trust anyone with money.
They rely on the evidence you created when Bitter Betty told you that rich men can never be faithful.
They rely on the evidence you created when you were 15 and grandma told you that women either need to get a good job or find a man with a stable job in order for them to live a good life.
They rely on the evidence you created when you failed your CPA exam 4 times and your friends and family told you that for your own sanity and joy, you need to quit. Don’t force what isn’t for you. Failing 4 times is a sign that you are not supposed to be a CPA.
They rely on the evidence you created when you were 24 and your boyfriend, the love of your life cheated on you and left you for Becky with the good hair. When he told you that if you were skinny enough, sexy enough, had bigger boobs, or were there for him 24-7, he would never have done this to you. If you just listened to him and got him the way Kali does, you wouldn’t have pushed him to cheat on you.
They rely on the evidence you created when you were 30 and didn’t get the promotion you wanted. If only you were smart enough, outgoing enough and laughed at all the dry jokes at the last office happy hour.
They rely on the evidence you created when you maxed out all your credit cards and went into debt.
They rely on the evidence you created when you lost your last business because of bad business advice from all the free blogs and articles you read on the internet.
So, what now?
You flip the damn script!
How to Your Kick Money Blocks to the Curb and Take Your Power Back
Identify the underlying stories.
Identify whose stories they are. Yours? Your parents? Your sister’s? Your culture? Your community? Your friends?
Identify the blocks.
Determine how and why they are show up so you are aware of how they are holding you back and the impact and cost on your life, health, relationships and business.
Identify what exactly they are trying to protect you.
Determine whether you’re truly in danger and need this protection.
Identify the beliefs that have to true for these stories to be true in the first place.
Determine whether you’re willing to put these beliefs away.
Figure out what has to be true now and powerfully release these stories.
Create your new stories and beliefs that are aligned with your dreams and support our core goals and mission.
Become the woman who goes from stuck to getting it done!
Keep it simple.
Keep a journal of all your thoughts throughout the day for the next 28 days. Write down the thoughts as they come up.
Look at the thoughts to see when they came up. What were you doing or about to do? What were you telling yourself? Who was with you? Who was supporting or draining you? Where were you? Who name showed up on the caller ID?
For each thought or belief, flip the script and create a new one that empowers you to be who you want to be and do what you want to do.
There you go!
If you resonate with any of this, what are you committed to?
If you want to take action, by when will you start?
How will you hold yourself accountable to getting things done?
Who would you have to be to make sure you stay on track?
Who or what will support you on your journey?
Good luck! You got this.
I’m MiMi Dabo and I support Women Entrepreneurs who struggle with Creating Premium Clients and Charging their Worth, to Confidently Package, Price, Market and Sell their Services to their Ideal Clients in a Profitable Niche.
I help them to ditch the crappy Money Blocks and stories, and package their services into irresistible high-end offers for their ideal clients, raise their prices or charge what they’re worth, and market and sell with ease so they can radically increase their income – while changing the world in the process. Visit www.lifecoachforwomen.com.