How do I find my soulmate? I just want to find my forever love. I know the love of my life is out there just waiting for me to find him. The clock is ticking, and I really need to settle down, get married and pop out some kids. I’m tired of dating losers, and its time to find Prince Charming. He must be tall, dark and handsome. Where is Mr. Right hiding?
Being a relationship coach gives me the opportunity to work with successful professional and business women seeking love. I have had the privilege of hearing all versions of the search for love, the lack of love and the scarcity of suitable men and women on the planet.
What common characteristics make the cut?
Sexy, Attractive, Hot, Driven, Upwardly mobile, Powerful, Great teeth, Must have a job, Kind, Generous, Loving, Gorgeous, Must love kids, Must love dogs, Must love cats, Jumpable, Emotionally available, just to name a few.
While finding love, searching for love or seeking love are all noble journeys, there is one even more important step that guides how the relationship (when created) will eventually go – Learning to truly love yourself. Yes, self-love, self-compassion, self-trust and self-care. The things we take for granted; the things we want to skip over because then we may have to face the ugly truth; that our inner game is weak.
What inner game? Faith. Mindset. Limiting beliefs. Sub-conscious mental and emotional blocks. Negative self-talk. Lack of self-confidence. Relentless inner critic. Nagging self-doubt. Fear. Shyness. Procrastination.
Powerful variations of not-enough-ness – I’m not good enough, I’m not skinny enough, I’m not confident enough, I’m’ not sexy enough, I’’m not worthy. There are no good men left out there. All the good ones are taken. I’m afraid to set boundaries. I don’t have the time. I don’t have _________. A growing dependence on dating sites that promise you the world, and leave you frustrated and out of money.
The list could go on, but you get the picture.
AND remember, there is NOTHING wrong with any of these things. But if any of this resonates with you, I invite to consider whether loving yourself first may be the key to creating the love(r) you desire.
Whether leaning into your own “enoughness” and “lovability” could be the way to open yourself up to the realization that you deserve all the great things you want to attract into your life and give you the freedom kick fear, shyness, procrastination and negative Nancy to the curb.
It’s not just about finding someone who checks the box for movies, dinner, or vacations. What is possible if, while as great as those three things are, they end up being just the icing on the cake? After all you could go watch a movie by yourself. You can take a vacation alone or with family or girlfriends, and you can eat a great meal alone. These are neutral events that mean nothing, but the story you create about them. Nothing else.
Let’s get quiet and dive a little deep beneath the surface for a minute or two.
Even if you do find him wherever you’ve been looking, or attract him from your current mindset (scarcity, overwhelm, fear, not-enoughness), what is predictable for you?
Who are you taking into that new relationship?
How do you think this cycle will go?
What will make it different from all the others?
What have you learned about yourself? What excites you? What gives you joy? What delights you? What is/are your relationship and self trigger(s)?
How will you navigate this relationship gracefully, confidently with ease?
What is your vision for your life? Where does this relationship fit in? It’s not just finding the perfect guy, getting the ring, planning the amazing wedding, buying the cute home and having the most perfect little babies ever!
What if whatever is going on in your personal life is showing up in some way in your career, business, finances, your health and wellness, and other key areas of your life?
Here’s the scoop! I get it!
That’s why, for a limited time I am offering a special “Create Your Mr. Right” Coaching Session for FREE. During this special one-on-one coaching session, we’ll work together to….
- Create a crystal-clear vision for the kind of man you want to attract, and the kind of relationship you’d like to create.
- We’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success with dating with men and dating.
- You’ll leave the session renewed, reenergized and inspired to create an amazing relationship for yourself once and for all.
To claim your special one-on-one FREE 45-minute “Create Your Mr. Right” Session today simply reply to mimidabo@lifecoachforwomen, with your answers to the following questions:
- How long have you been single?
- On a scale of 0 to 10, how important is it for you to create a relationship now?
- What are your top 5 biggest relationship challenges?
- What would you most like support with when it comes to men and dating?
Please include your name and contact details (email address or phone number) when you request your one-on-one “Create Your Mr. Right” Session so that I can contact you with scheduling details.
There are only 5 Free Coaching Sessions left for this month AND this special offer is on a First Come, First Serve Basis.
As always, all Coaching Sessions are Strictly Confidential.
All coaching sessions are virtual via Zoom or phone or skype, and can be done from anywhere in the world.
P.S. – I can’t wait to hear about your great new relationship!
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Want to connect? Email me at mimidabo@lifecoachforwomen to share your story, your perspective, your comments or your questions.
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Peace and Love,
Your Transformational Life Coach + Relationship Coach
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I specialize in helping high-performing professional women, creative entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants (and a few visionary men) bounce back from whatever is keeping them stuck in their relationships, career or business, so that they can create and live the beautiful life they truly want,
I help you turn your heartbreak into the best thing that ever happened to you.