“I have a list of goals that I want to get done, but I’m not sure where to start or if I even like those goals anymore.”
“What do you want,” I asked Chandler.
“Well, I don’t know, right. Isn’t that the reason why I am here? I want you to help me figure out what I want so I can make my life vision and have a framework for working on my goals.”
Lack of clarity around life vision is common. While most women I work with have a list of to do lists, goals and an unlimited amount of wish lists, figuring out what they want seems the most elusive, yet most important answer.
Are you clear on what you want for your life? When and how did you figure out? Do you know anyone still struggling to figure out her/his purpose or vision?
In the previous post, I discussed the topic of Life Purpose, specifically, “What Is My Life Purpose And How Do I Find It?” Discovering your life purpose sets the stage for clarity around your life vision and goals. It is an empowering tool in identifying and creating action steps that keep you unstuck, on track, and moving toward your dream life.
Early on in my coaching career, I interviewed over 20 attorneys to get a sense of their life vision, goals and what they wanted in life, love and career.
Stressed out and riddled with anxiety over billable hours and work performance, these women barely had time to dream of purpose-driven lives.
For most of them, life was going exactly according to their plans. They made great money. Enjoyed thriving romantic relationships. On the outside, it looked like they had it all.
Yet they were still unhappy. They still felt like something was missing. They were bored, unfulfilled, empty, and just plain stuck. They knew there was more for them in life, but couldn’t quite articulate it.
They sought clarity around their own life visions.
Most importantly, they had never asked themselves what they want.
While the question is deceptively easy, I have learned that busy women, especially highly educated women have little to no time for anything that distracts from climbing that corporate ladder or creating that small business empire.
And there is nothing wrong with it.
But consider for a moment, what success without a vision costs? What does it cost anyone to put him/herself last? Who does it serve? What is the payoff?
What about you?
Are you ready to use your purpose to reflect on what you want to create in your life?
What are your biggest, boldest dreams? The ones you are scared to tell anyone, including yourself. They seem impossible. They seem out of your league.
Take a deep look at your life. Are your dreams really impossible or are they just so completely incongruent with how you are currently being, that you’re scared to discover what is possible for yourself?
What if you’re comfortable playing small and scared to be great? How will you feel? What will change?
Consider your passions, your core values, your purpose, your dreams, your soul. Dream big.
Ignore the inner critic spreading guilty messages. Lean into your dreams and imagine what is possible without feeling guilty for wanting your bliss.
Remove the self-imposed limitations of what you have convinced yourself you can or cannot do. Give yourself permission to fly.
Reflect on where are you choosing from? Lack? Fear? Doubt? Overwhelm? Or Confidence? Faith? Courage? Abundance?
Who do you want to be? What kind of life do you want? WHY do you want it?
Your WHY is tied to your life purpose.
Close your eyes and imagine that it is 5 years down the road, and you’ve created your dream life. What does it look like? What does it feel like? How are you being in it? Who are you with? What are you doing? What is your WHY for all this fabulousness?
Write down each detail.
Go deeper. What does it taste like? What does it smell like? What makes it so special?
Get all the little details. This is the life you’ve been dreaming about.
Now, you have glimpse into this fabulous life you want to create.
You just took yourself there. Is it everything you imagined it would be?
Good! Now, ask yourself how you created it? Write down each step.
Repeat these questions for all the key areas in your life.
What is possible in your life if you create inspiring visions for your personal life, career/business, finances, health, wellbeing, love, spirituality, and any other area you deem worthy.
A life vision that makes you want to take consistent, targeted action toward each goal in your vision. A life vision that you look forward to living every day.
A vision that motivates you from the inside out.
Discovering your life purpose, and creating your vision gives you the power to show up fully and pour the best of yourself into who you are being and what you do every day.
Your north star.
The freedom to choose what is possible for you.
If you’re still confused, and you’re still trying to figure out you want, go easy on yourself. It’s not something we take the time to really dive into daily.
Ask yourself, “What is in the way of me giving myself the gift of being everything I was created to be?”
“What do I want?”
Once you figure out what is holding you back from gaining clarity on your life, you’ll give yourself permission to fully live.
You’re the expert on your life. You get to decide when.
Are you ready to live your best life yet? Is 2018 your year to create what you truly want in your personal life, professional life or business? Is now the right time to be everything you were created to be? Then Join MiMi and inspiring women from around the world for the 90-Day Journey to Living and Working with Purpose. This three month virtual group program will transform your life, shift your perceptions and empower you to be, do and create what you want. Click HERE to Register!!
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Peace and Love,
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I coach high-performing professional women and creative entrepreneurs (and some visionary men) who are committed to making an impact in the world, but are stuck, bored, or unfulfilled, in their professional or personal lives. I also help women to bounce back from breakups, separation, or divorce, and create beautiful lives. I help them shift negative emotions and regain the confidence and self-esteem to reinvent their lives.